Every year as I’m clawing my way to the annual finish line I end up feeling like my life’s cup of energy and good intentions has sprung more than a few leaks. All of my hopefulness and to-do list enthusiasm has puddled-up around me, and I’m lucky if I even remember to brush my hair. And that’s on a good day.
I think for most of us, the simple fact that we’re alive means we are in service to others. Whether it’s our children, spouse, partner, aging parents, family, clients, bosses, investors, fans, community, neighbors, friends—we spend most of our time giving of ourselves. It’s how we’re wired, and I believe it’s why we’re here.
But boy, that constant outpouring sure can leave us empty, can’t it? And I have absolute reverence for those who, without feeling guilty or self-indulgent, know that they have to spend time filling their cup back up in order to continue being of service to those around them. I want to brush my hair and be them.
I’ve been surrounding myself with people who embody this at the workshops I’ve been producing—people who save up, invest in themselves, and travel from all over to spend a few days filling their cup doing something they love before heading back into their lives. I’ve witnessed the transformation in people—especially after the Tuscan Retreat (which was so fulfilling and magical I still can’t find words, and we have another one coming up in May with two spots left!).
Here are a few pointers I’ve learned from these wonderful folks:
- We fill ourselves through experiences, not by things. Although retail therapy feels good in the moment, it’s usually empty calories that lead to regret. Experiences feed and sustain us.
- Experiences are guilt-free. They should never be seen as self-indulgent, because their purpose is to provide us with what we need to serve those around us. An investment in ourselves is good for everyone.
- Filling ourselves requires a quiet space of time. And unplugging is essential.
- An investment in ourselves doesn’t require a lot of time or money. It’s a long-term fund that you keep putting a little into here and there. It can be a walk, a massage, breaking out the nice soap and taking a hot bath, burning that candle you’ve been saving, treating ourselves to a wonderful meal, or just spending a morning reading a magazine or getting lost in a good book.
- Always have something to look forward to. The planning and anticipation of something can often fill us as much as the actual experience.
- Spend time with your tribe—the people with whom you share common goals and passions, and who celebrate the part of you that your family or co-workers may not quite “get.” They always provide a steady flow of good energy when we need it.
Feel free to add to the list, and share any pointers you might have. And be good to yourselves, everyone—remember to take time to fill your cup until it spills over with all the wonderfulness you have to give. I’ll be toasting you with a nice bottle of wine I’ve saved in anticipation for just this occasion!
Wishing you love, peace and much music over the holidays—
Category: Note From Lydia